Recently, I was invited to have Nigerian food in another borough by a couple who are members of my least-favorite new subculture: radical foodies, people who try to convince you that there is no more noble pursuit than spending $26 on a small saucer of jellyfish pâté. When I called to say I couldn’t make Read More
Since many of you have been out of the dating loop for some time, I thought it might be fun to do a little role-playing. First I’d like you to imagine, for the sake of this exercise, that you are a single woman in your 30′s who, although you have a demanding and rewarding career Read More
Lately, I’ve come to think that I don’t talk enough about the positives of dating. For example, it was on a date that I learned how to fold a $5 bill so that you get a hologram effect of Abraham Lincoln smiling, then frowning. I also learned about Israel’s Internet industry, and that Uncle Junior Read More
It’s hard to believe that two weeks ago, New York was luxuriating in a kind of golden age of relationships. If you were in one, you were most likely trying to make it better: learning to listen, learning how to argue constructively and accept responsibility. If you were single and looking for a relationship, there Read More
Recently, I’ve found myself thinking about the past. Not my
own past, although I do that, too, but a time when things were simpler-in some
ways. Thousands of years ago, humans lived in a world of brutal ice and
excessive body hair, but on the flip side, they didn’t have to hear things like
“It Read More
A few weeks ago, I
got a lesson in courtship from my father. It started when I told him that I’d
been dating a man who said he liked my apartment, with its Moroccan
painted-wood pieces and flea-market finds.
“That’s terrific,” my father said. “That means he’s interested .”
“Because he said he Read More
Recently over lox
and eggs at Barney Greengrass, I told my father I wanted to write an article
about how intimacy can be deceptive.
”I’ve got a such a
good story for you,” he said, laughing. “When Mom and I started dating, she had
a bust out to here”- he straightened
his arms away Read More
With 2001 upon us, I’ve heard much talk of “time capsules,”
selected artifacts to be stored and studied in years to come by people wearing
snug zip-up unitards and sipping Tang from floating mugs. These people will
analyze our Tamagotchis, our Wonderbras and Wonder Bread. They will also examine
our language. In the same way Read More
When you’re not in a relationship, it’s easy to dream in
romantic film clips: zipping around sunny Italy with a swarthy fellow whose
sole desire is to take you off the market ( Roman
Holiday ) … or having a miraculously evolved man burst in on you and your
many angry female friends and proclaim, Read More
A few weeks ago my father said, “I’ve got a terrific idea for your next article.”
“Great,” I replied, anxious to hear what he had in mind. “Let’s hear it.”
“I think you should write about when you go to a bar and meet a man and then go to bed with him. Write Read More
