Love in the Time of Algorithms
Michelle’s path through the world of online dating has been littered with frauds, phonies and disappointments. Take the cop who claimed he was on disability leave. On their first date, he let slip that his “leave” was actually a suspension, the result of charges that he had beaten an ex-girlfriend.
Then there was the runway model who claimed to divide his time between New York, Miami and Houston—“It’s always a red flag when there are multiple cities,” Michelle said with an eye roll—but couldn’t produce a single nonprofessional photo of himself. He had plenty of close-ups of his abs, though! That imposter turned out to have lifted his images from a Bloomingdale’s catalog.
And don’t even get her started on the innumerable married men who tried to court her online.
Some people are turned on by guys sporting law enforcement attire–but usually, nobody loves the sight of a man in uniform more than he himself does. In fact, some city police officers are so hung up on the sight of themselves in blue, the NYPD has launched an investigation into cops using uniformed selfies to attract mates on dating websites.
Love in the Time of Algorithms
A few months ago, this Betabeat reporter jokingly created an OKCupid account on a whim with the username “ilovebitcoin” to solicit amusing messages from people who were shocked–shocked–to discover that ladies know about cryptocurrency, too. (“Think of all the randos who will want to message me!” she thought to herself one evening, feverishly pecking away on her keyboard all by her lonesome. “My life is awesome.”)
Indeed, the messages we received were oftentimes hilarious, so we’d occasionally forward them on to friends. What we didn’t realize, however, was that every time we forwarded an OKCupid email to someone, it gave that person direct access to our account–every silly message, chat and photo could be seen and even edited.
DOMA IN A COMA
When the New York State Senate voted to legalize same-sex marriage on June 24, 2011, I was sitting on the couch with my then-boyfriend, Erik, watching the proceedings on television. We kissed, and then we walked down to Christopher Street, where the happy, sweaty, remarkably family-friendly celebrations were in full swing.
We wandered past some bars, we ran into some friends, and eventually we came back to my apartment, at which point—this is to the best of my recollection, with the caveat that my recollection may not be entirely accurate—we had a screaming fight. (I’d wanted to stay out and see more friends; he’d wanted to go home and be together. Extrovert, meet introvert.)
Before that night, we’d talked about marriage here and there, not so much in the context of “the state should validate our relationship” or even “does this make sense for the two of us?” but rather, homosexually, in terms of “this hotel would be so cute” and “matching ties or coordinated?” Now, for the first time, as New Yorkers, a wedding was a real, legal possibility. By the next spring, and the next nuptial season, we’d split.
If there’s one thing I hate more than spilling a Shiner Bock on my iPhone 4 just after I just downloaded the newest OkCupid update, it’s South by Southwest, especially the Interactive part, a supposedly technology-oriented appendage of the days-long party.
Let’s destroy this sham of a technological confabulation once and for all. But before Read More
New York and OkCupid have teamed up to create a Valentine’s Day heat map of horny NYers.
The data dynamos from OkCupid looked at how likely users from each zip code were to respond to online flirtations, as well as how they answered questions like, “If it were up to you, Read More
New York’s own online dating startup OKCupid announced that former rival Match.com bought the company for $50 million today, and there was much rejoicing.
But back in April, when OKCupid wrote a post called “Why You Should Never Pay for Online Dating,” the companies weren’t so sweet on each other. Read More
Match.com just shelled out $50 million for New York’s homegrown dating site OKCupid, the dating site known for being free, giving its users quizzes, and turning those surveys into fascinating plunges into the human psyche at the OKTrends blog.
The press release indicates that OKCupid will not be shut down and Read More
Anyone who has tried online dating knows the stress of picking out a profile picture. What combination of eye contact, cleavage and lighting will inspire new suitors?
In the latest installment of OkCupid’s dating research, The Mathematics of Beauty, the site reveals a few fascinating trends they observed about dating success.
Turns out Read More