MIKE: Many brides attempt to get a break from the planning by giving the groom some duties, such as securing the band, buying the liquor or keeping the ring bearer from swallowing the jewelry.
My fiancee, Dana, offered me zero duties: “How can I put this? I don’t, ummm, trust you,” she said, setting the stage for a wonderful marriage. “I’ll say roses and you’ll think, ‘Hmm…lilacs…'”
But in the end I was vindicated. When it all became too overwhelming, I was handed certain duties (such as the emergency, mid-morning, mother-in-law-won’t-stop-offering-advice liquor run) and I executed them flawlessly.